Marriage Help

I am a compassionate and heartfelt listener, especially when a married couple walks through my door.  By the time most couples walk in the door of my counseling office they are highly distressed and what they want most from me is the “fix” or “change” their spouse.  Unfortunately that is not what a good marriage counselor does.  A professional and licensed counselor works with the client/consumer to enlighten the areas that each individual needs to change.  In other words, “If it is to be, it is up to me.”  as opposed to, “If it is to be, it is up to them. (meaning the other spouse). If a married couple can come to terms with this premise early in the counseling experience, then more often than not, the counseling experience will be positive.  Change happens in a system through positive and negative interloping interactions.  Will that change be positive or negative?  That is the question that you need to ask yourself if you are struggling with you marriage.  What changes can you personally make to influence your marriage relationship for the better? You’d be amazed at the effect a single action of kindness can have on your mate.  Ask yourself the question, “In what way does my spouse most desire my love or attention?”  Give to your spouse in the manner in which he/she will receive.  If your spouse loves to talk then the gift you can give is having a long conversation.  If sexuality is the way your spouse communicates his/her love, then honor that in your relationship.  Try this exercise of giving and let me know what happens.
Many Blessings Sent Your Way!!!!

Michelle

Hello world!

Hello World!! My name is Michelle Muff and I am a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist.  I own and operate Compassionate Counseling Services, LLC in Waseca MN.  I provided family, marriage and individual counseling.

My passion is working with parents and children.  I provide play therapy for children ages 5-12. For children, play is there language and toys are their words.  I have a wonderful play room full of specific toys that aid children in discussing their problems with me.  I love working with children that are going through changes in their family and help them express through play what is bothering them.  Client centered play therapy enables the child to freely play while I monitor and track their play.  After I get to know the child I use a more tailored and structured approach to meet their specific need.  Some of their needs involve adjusting to divorce or a remarriage, problems in school, dealing with bullying, academic challenges, sibling issues, blended family issues, or adjusting to a move.  Changes in family life do effect children.  Many times parents underestimate the effect change can have on a child.  Assuming the child is resilient and can handle changes on their own is unfair to the child.  Working with the child and the parent, I  increase effectiveness in bringing about positive adjustment and positive change in behavior.  Many times I bring the parent into the play room and teach them play therapy techniques that they can use in their home.  Parents love to have a structured and identified approach to play that is proven to help their child, increase communication between them and decrease opposition.  I hope to post a picture of my play room soon.

Further post will revolve around family and children services, marriage help and spiritual integration in the counseling session.  I can’t wait to share what I know.  Many blessings sent your way.

Blessings!! Michelle